Anonymous asked: have you ever had a pregnancy scare? My boyfriend used the pull out method, and it was just once, but since then i've been having cramps and feeling a little nauseous. I may also just be worrying, or sick, there's a flu going around in my house right now. I'm a little worried:/ he thinks i'm being sortof ridiculous thinking i'm pregnant, and i don't want to talk to anyone else about it ...
Go to the doctor or take a pregnancy test. If you’re super cautious about things like this happening be more careful and use protection like the contraceptive pill, condoms and the morning after pill. His dick feeling good without a condom is not worth an unplanned pregnancy, put your own health before his desire
I don’t know if anon is in the US but if you are and you have insurance, thanks to the Affordable Healthcare Act many insurance plans cover female contraception—completely. No copay.
If it’s not completely covered there are programs and discounts through your doctor that help you get the lowest price possible.
You can talk to your doctor about what type of contraception is best for you/for body.
Also if it is an argument of your boy feeling no sensation with a condom, two things:
1. The guy that truly cares about you is going to respect you enough not to pressure you into something risky because it’ll make his dick feel better. You can work together to find the contraceptive that works for you and you should—safe sex should not solely be your responsibility.
2. With practice, you can get used to how it feels to have sex with condoms on (should you choose this method. It is one of the most affordable). He can practice by masturbating with condoms on, so that he knows what feels good in that scenario.
Sorry for the tangent about safe sex.
Love the safe sex fairy.
Anonymous asked: What are the signs of emotional abuse?
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.